When it comes to relationships, we’re used to thinking of monogamy as the gold standard.

You know the drill: one partner, till death do you part (or at least until that next argument over who left the socks on the floor). But there’s a growing conversation about alternative relationship styles like Consensual Non-Monogamy (CNM), which includes polyamory and open relationships.

This approach involves forming multiple romantic or sexual relationships simultaneously — with the full knowledge and consent of everyone involved, of course.
 
At first glance, CNM might sound like an emotional roller-coaster or the fast track to jealousy city.
But, surprise surprise!  Research shows that CNM can offer a host of emotional benefits, not to mention some interesting insights into mental health and relationship dynamics.

Let’s dive into what makes these relationships tick, why some people thrive in them, and how CNM might just redefine what a ‘healthy relationship’ looks like.

Talking openly and honestly about feelings is vital in any relationship but is essential when multiple partners are involved. This creates a heightened sense of trust and intimacy.

People in CNM relationships often practice something called 'compersion', which is basically the warm and fuzzy feeling you get when you see your partner enjoying themselves with someone else.

Yes, it’s the opposite of jealousy, and it’s more common than you’d think in CNM relationships. This open emotional maturity not only strengthens bonds but also contributes to greater overall well-being.

Sex and sexuality are topics that everyone has an opinion on, often influenced by things like our own personal history, the way we were brought up and our adult relationships. 

Our beliefs and behaviours are also influenced by the society we live in as well as what we can call consumer-driven ideas we are constantly bombarded with in the television shows and movies we watch, and from the social media we voraciously consume!

With so many different perspectives out there, it can be tricky for you to figure out you own personal values when it comes to your sexual identity. But it’s really important to develop a clear, personal understanding of your own sexual beliefs. This helps you feel more empowered and satisfied because your decisions will align with your own desires and needs.

A good first step in building your personal set of beliefs is to reflect inwardly. Recognising that sexuality is a natural part of being human – and nothing to be ashamed of – is key. Whether you choose to express your sexuality or not, it’s still important to own it. Take celibacy, for example. Some people choose to remain celibate but still acknowledge their sexual energy, which they can channel into other areas of their lives.  While most intimate relationships have both emotional and sexual aspects, some couples choose to remain ‘asexual’ and experience little or no sexual attraction but still engage in romantic relationships without the expectation or desire for sexual interaction​. These relationships are often built on other forms of intimacy and connection, demonstrating that sexual activity is not essential for relationship satisfaction for all couples.