Memo from your child

1. Don't spoil me

It's important to understand that when your child asks for everything and tests your boundaries, they are not just being difficult; they are seeking structure and guidance.

Spoiling your child by giving in to all their demands can lead to a sense of entitlement, where they expect to receive whatever they want without understanding the value of effort and patience. Setting limits and saying no teaches them essential life skills such as self-control, respect for others, and appreciation for what they have.

By not giving in to every request, you help them develop a sense of responsibility and resilience, preparing them for the real-world challenges they will face as they grow. Remember, children thrive on consistent boundaries and the security of knowing that their parents are guiding them towards becoming well-rounded individuals.

For example, consider a scenario where your child asks for a new toy every time you go to the shops.

While it might be easier to buy the toy to avoid a tantrum, consistently saying yes can lead to the expectation that they will always get what they want.

Instead, use this as an opportunity to teach them about patience and earning rewards. Explain that they can't have a new toy every time, but perhaps they can earn it by completing chores or achieving a personal goal. This approach not only helps them understand that rewards come from effort and good behaviour but also instils a sense of accomplishment when they finally earn the toy.

Over time, these lessons in delayed gratification and responsibility will help your child develop into a more considerate and grounded individual.  And remember, it's not about depriving your child but about being thoughtful and intentional with what you provide, ensuring they learn important life lessons along the way.

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